5 Ways Of Controlling Your Loquacious (Talkative) Behavior

By Benson Michael .Chidiebere → Sunday, 18 September 2016


Obviously, this same thing or trend is a social related matter that has to do with approximately 70% of personalities and individuals all over the world today. Cases has it that Being talkative is absolutely an inborn behavior which can hardly be erased but rather it can be controlled all the same. 

Loquacious attributes or behavior can also be translated as some attributes of talkativeness. this simply means that Loquacious simply means Talkative.

Being a talkative can real issue that can often bring down social relationships. Whether you're talkative because you always have a story to tell, to having a psychological fear of rejection, here's how to avoid being talkative.

AVOID PERSONAL REFERENCES



 "I", "me", "my", and personal experiences are usually boring to others and can keep you going for a long time. This is a craving that can turn into a bad habit, which is hard to take down. Only (occasionally) throw in short stories that pertain to the topic at hand.
If you do tell a story, make sure it's funny. If a person is bored or has no reaction to the story, they (honestly) probably think the words were wasted time and/or space.
People subconsciously love to talk about themselves. The less you do it, the less you'll want to do it. Talk about others instead.

ASK QUESTIONS AND FIND OUT INFORMATION




If you do bring something up about yourself, ask a question or find information from the other person(s) perspective so that it doesn't seem like a waste of time. You may also be approached with something that seems boring to you, which will make you want to ask questions less.
For the final sentence, you might think this will make you just talk about yourself and not ask others. Instead, pair questions and taking interest in others with talking. Make it your goal to talk with people and not at them.

PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES



Think about how you would feel talking to yourself. If you're bored, annoyed, bothered, tired, or out of interest, take this into consideration. You'll know what you need to fix and/or work on. If others have admitted to feeling bored or careless but you see nothing wrong, you may be (slightly) self-absorbed and should see that as something to work on.

GET AN OPINION



Grab one or some very close friends and ask them honestly if you're too talkative. Tell them you want 100% truth on their opinion and that you can definitely handle anything they have to say. Tell them you're doing it not for personal benefit, but for their benefit too, so they don't have to deal with these issues and even help you fix them.

ALWAYS KEEP THIS IN MIND



There are simple rules that you should keep in mind before and when speaking.It's a basically a guide to when to keep your mouth shut. Remember to stop speaking if the following happens:
If they're not paying attention or talking to someone else
If the story is a long one and nobody asked to hear it
If you got the story from the internet
If you're talking about your dreams or work
The person seems bored or uninterested
The person is looking at their phone, tablet, or computer
The person is working
You're talking too fast
You're the only one laughing
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Benson Chidiebere

I'm Benson Chidiebere is one of the top Nigerian bestselling author, speaker, mentor, preacher and enterprenuer. He has been reckoned to be one of the best up and doing young personnel whose main goal is youth.

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